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Empowering Principals & Leaders to THRIVE

Courage is Fear Walking

by Steve Zonnevylle / 4th December 2023

THE STORY

I was a Primary School Principal for a long time. Twenty Eight years is a long time in anyone's language. The days when I wasn't scared were few and far between. Ok, so I wasn't scared all the time, every day; but there was a lot of time when I felt an element of fear in my every day professional life.

Sometimes it manifested itself in the little things. Like getting up and speaking at a school assembly for the very first time. Or that time that I wrote about last week when I found myself being gunged by the What Now team from TVNZ. Or those times when I took bullrush for the kids at lunchtimes and I was worried that someone was going to break an arm or something worse.

Or that time when my school had fundraised money for the Life Education Trust and as a result the kids got to see me jump out of an aeroplane. Those minutes, sitting in that plane, climbing up to 15,000 feet (or whatever), knowing that I had to jump out of a plane, even though I didn't want to - they were scary minutes.

Often it was worse. Like the time an angry parent burst in to my office and stood face to face with me yelling so loudly and angrily that I could feel his spittle on my face.

Or those times when I had made a mistake and invariably I needed to step up and own my "crap" and do something about it.

As an aside I read recently a great alternative to this notion of a mistake. Think of a mistake as if you are a movie director of your own life. Movie directors get to re-film elements of the story that they are telling until they get it right. These are known as takes.

Our mis-takes are simply an opportunity to re-take that shot in our lifes that we didn't get right. Yes, there are times when you can't put something right, by having another crack at it, but ultimately these times are few. And even in these times, you get to be courageous instead of heeding to your fears.

Getting up and being pro-active in times of adversity, uncertainty, or just plain crappiness means over coming the fear that is keeping you in a state of limbo or paralyisis. 

This is called Courage.

But this doesn't mean that you've cured your fear. It just means that you haven't let your fear get in the way of what needs to be done.  

So what?

What does COURAGE IS FEAR WALKING really mean?

Being a courageous leader involves a combination of personal qualities, behaviors, and actions. It means doing things even when you may be in a state of fear.

Here are some tips on how to cultivate courage both as a leader and in your team:

  1. Face Your Fears:
    • Acknowledge your fears and vulnerabilities.
    • Identify the sources of your fears and address them directly.
  2. Lead by Example:
    • Demonstrate the behavior you expect from your team.
    • Show that you are willing to take calculated risks.
  3. Embrace Change:
    • Be adaptable and open to change.
    • Encourage a culture that sees change as an opportunity for growth.
  4. Communicate Effectively:
    • Clearly communicate your vision and goals.
    • Be transparent about challenges and uncertainties.
  5. Encourage Innovation:
    • Foster a culture of creativity and innovation.
    • Reward calculated risk-taking and learning from failures.
  6. Build Trust:
    • Establish trust with your team by being honest and reliable.
    • Trust is foundational to creating a courageous and supportive environment.
  7. Take Responsibility:
    • Accept responsibility for your decisions and actions.
    • Admit mistakes and use them as learning opportunities.
  8. Develop Resilience:
    • Cultivate resilience to bounce back from setbacks.
    • Encourage your team to see failures as opportunities to learn and improve.
  9. Empower Others:
    • Delegate responsibilities and empower your team members.
    • Encourage them to take ownership and initiative
  10. Encourage Collaboration:
    • Foster a collaborative environment where team members support each other.
    • Promote the idea that everyone's input is valued.
  11. Continuous Learning:
    • Stay informed about industry trends and best practices.
    • Demonstrate a commitment to continuous learning and improvement.
  12. Celebrate Successes:
    • Acknowledge and celebrate achievements, both big and small.
    • Use positive reinforcement to motivate and inspire your team.

Remember that courage is not the absence of fear but the ability to act despite it. By embodying these qualities and behaviors, you can foster a courageous leadership style that inspires and empowers your team.

What are the Six types of Courage?

Courage comes in many different guises. How many can you think of? How many have you used?

Here are six different types of courage.

1.  Physical Courage

Ok, this is the one that probably comes to mind first. This is the "stand up to the bully in the playground" sort of courage. You see it when people are willing to face danger - physical danger  - you know, saving someone else who might be going through their own trauma. Such as firefighters, who are willing to put themselves in dangers way despite the possiblity of getting hurt.

My own experience as a one off sky diver might also be classified as physical courage. Somehow I had to manage my body out of a plane, even though part of me was sure that I was about to fall to a certain death! So there was also an element here of mental and emotional strength needed.

More often than not though, physical courage can describe any situation where you're willing to put yourself in harm's way to help someone else.

2.  Emotional Courage

Emotional courage is something that you'll find with the best leaders and most inspiring humans.

These sort of people seem to be able to deal with their emotions in a productive and healthy way rather than a destructive one. They face their emotions head on instead of turning their head, ignoring them, or simply running away!

Maybe you can think of a time when you showed great emotional courage. 

There are no doubt plenty of times in your life, whether it be your personal life or your professional life, when you've found yourself in great hurt or sadness. Maybe it's been the devastating loss of a loved one? Or maybe a close colleague of yours has moved on to another town and you miss them in a professional capacity. Maybe you've had a major disagreement with your boss - who knows! Nevertheless it still requires some emotional courage to get up and keep going. You may well be fighting a need to isolate yourself, or even lash out agressivley - but instead you use emotional courage to front up anyway.

I remember a time when I had just given a colleague the bad news that I wouldn't be able to employ her the following year. She was devastated, and incredibly upset. She felt unwanted and pissed off. But yet, that very night she came along to our end of term assembly in front of a packed hall, head held high. That took a load of emotional courage on her behalf to turn up. And in turn she gained a truck load of respect. I'll always remember that.

3.  Intellectual Courage

Leaders need intellectual courage because it enables them to lead with confidence and conviction - even if their ideas might not intially be picked up by the people they are leading.

A leader with intellectual courage will see beyond the "this is how we've always done it" scenario and ask those tough questions that might rock the boat regardless of what others will think of them - all in the name of sticking to their convictions, or being curious of things other than the status quo.

You might find someone with intellectual courage doing some of these things:

●     Speaking up in meetings even when they're not sure everyone agrees with them.

●     Challenging ideas, even from management.

●     Sharing their opinions even if they aren't popular among their peers or superiors.

●     Asking questions that may seem ridiculous at first glance (but actually reveal some truth).

Often this this type of courage presenting itself by someone on your staff, may appear confronting to you. It takes a great leader to respond to intellectual courage with intellectual courage.

4.  Social Courage

Social courage has never been needed more. We live in a society whereby we're constantly judged by not only what we wear, but by what we listen to, by what we read, by what we eat, by what we do for a job, by what we do in our spare time with our spare time - the list goes on. We live in a time that is incredibly visible by way more people than ever before.

In the old days we were visible to our family and to our immediate friends. These days with the help of "improved' communications (such as social media) we are now visible to the world. And with that comes a social cost.

Social courage is the ability to stand up for yourself and your beliefs, even in the face of opposition from others. And these days the others is an increasingly bigger group than ever before.

It takes social courage to stand up to someone else on a social media platform if you don't agree with what they say. It takes social courage to stand up for your beliefs in a room full of colleagues at a staff meeting.

Humans are invariably a social beast. We don't like to rock the boat (yes I know I've already used that cliche'!) in case we get ourselves tipped out of the social boat. A courageous leader would and should allow people in their care to feel open to being socially courageous. 

This level of bravery isn't easy, but it can be developed over time.

5.  Moral Courage

This one is all about having the guts to stand up for your beliefs and values in the face of adversity, even when no one else does. Yes it does sound a little bit like intellectual courage in that it is about standing up for what you believe in.

But moral courage comes from more of a personal value and virtue point of view. Unsurprisingly, it comes directly from your personal morals.

If something doesn't feel right in your heart, or if you feel that an injustice has been done, or perhaps that something simply isn't fair - then it's likely you'll call upon your moral courage to step in and help you stand up for your belief.

In my years as a Principal you might be surprised to learn that it was my moral courage that seemed to be activated way more often than any of my other "courages".

Unsurprisingly it appears that it was often government or ministerial decision making, high above my pay grade, that found my moral courage being actived!

6.  Spiritual Courage

You don't have to be particularly spiritual to enact some spiritual courage in your life.

Spiritual Courage is a willingness to risk what you think you know, in order to learn more about yourself.

For example, after 28 years of Principalship I gave up my $150,000 a year job as a Principal. I had no job to go to. I had no plans in place. All I knew was that I could no longer carry on doing what I was doing. On reflection I would call this spiritual courage. And although others might call this stupid, I felt a very real need to change my path. It was, and still is, a risky proposition. But yet I felt a very real urge to let go of what I knew, and all the personal limitations that had in turn been enforced on me over a great many years, to discover a different way.

What was it that I was looking for? At the time as I made the "great leap" I had no idea. I just felt that something had to change.

And I needed to find my limitations - and in turn I found that I don't have any!

You don't either. But that takes a bit of spiritual courage to take that step of faith.

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About the Author:

Steve is an articulate, creative, and competent professional. He values the fostering of positive relationships and revels in working within team environments. The majority of his working career has been in leadership positions in Education. He has nearly 30 years of Primary Principal experience in the New Zealand school setting. He brings to Thrive a multitude of skills that cross over successfully in many working environments.His passions include music, writing and running.

However the thing he loves most is connecting with fellow human beings and working alongside them in order to support them in being the very best that they can. Steve is passionate about Principalship. He believes that being a Principal is one of the most important and privileged vocations on the planet. However he feels saddened that the role now appears to have become so complex and vast that quality people no longer see it as a long term career like he was able to enjoy, and instead shine bright and then burn out far too soon.

He sees this as a perfect conduit to express his own skills and expertise in a manner that will guide and support Principals so that they too can continue to grow in a positive and healthy manner for many, many years.

Steve Zonnevylle- Learning Coach at Spectrum Online Academy

Steve Zonnevylle